Quote or Passage I’m Pondering and Appreciating:

I’ve been thinking a great deal about balance and boundaries and have been sitting with this consideration around being who I want to be and also protecting that identity, showing up the way I want to show up and having the impact I want to have without losing myself or jeopardizing my identity.  This spoke to me as I seek to stay steady in my being, centered and confident in my inner voice.

Give. But don’t allow yourself to be used.
Love. But don’t allow your heart to be abused.
Trust. But don’t be naïve.
Listen. But don’t lose your own voice.

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Podcast I’m Listening To:

I have a recent obsession with Eckhart Tolle and found when I searched for him in the podcast world, several sessions with Oprah.  Here are a couple of my favorites so far…and a quote that is sticking with me:

“Stress arises in the gap of what is and what your mind says it should be.”

                                                        ~ Eckhart Tolle

Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations: Ekhart Tolle – Free Yourself from Anxiety, Stress and Unhappiness

Visionary thought leader and author of “A New Earth,” Eckhart Tolle explains his view of where we are in the state of the new Earth today. With a shift that has separated millions of Americans, Eckhart teaches us how to lift the ain that can show up for all of us. Oprah calls Eckhart Tolle one of the “greatest spiritual teachers and inspirations here on the planet.”

Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations: Ekhart Tolle – The Awakening of Consciousness

In a live appearance at UCLA’s Royce Hall, New York Times best-selling author and spiritual thought leader Ekhart Tolle explains the awakening of consciousness by taking on one of Oprah’s signature questions: What do you know for sure? “I know for sure that I’m sitting on a chair,” Eckhart says. “That’s the most surface level of things. I know for sure that this is a table.” His answer is simple enough, but Eckhart delves further. Even these seemingly simple truths are not concrete, he says. Eckhart goes so far as to say that we can’t know for sure that life is not a dream, a question that has been posed by many philosophers. Eckhart explains the importance of becoming more present in our daily lives and why the ability to become still is essential.

Book I’m Reading:

Changing on the Job: Developing Leaders for a Complex World by Jennifer Garvey Berger

What I am appreciating about the book – the way the author brings the lens of human development to the workplace.  I am learning so much about how we develop, why we stop developing, how our levels of development can explain our pain points and conflicts, and how we can find ways to make it to the next level.

What Amazon has to say:

Listen to people in every field and you’ll hear a call for more sophisticated leadership—for leaders who can solve more complex problems than the human race has ever faced. But these leaders won’t simply come to the fore; we have to develop them, and we must cultivate them as quickly as is humanly possible. Changing on the Job is a means to this end. As opposed to showing readers how to play the role of a leader in a “paint by numbers” fashion, Changing on the Job builds on theories of adult growth and development to help readers become more thoughtful individuals, capable of leading in any scenario. Moving from the theoretical to the practical, and employing real-world examples, author Jennifer Garvey Berger offers a set of building blocks to help cultivate an agile workforce while improving performance. Coaches, HR professionals, thoughtful leaders, and anyone who wants to flourish on the job will find this book a vital resource for developing their own capacities and those of the talent that they support.

 

 

Quote or Passage I’m Pondering and Appreciating:

On the mid-life…

Actually, this is but one of many ‘crises’ or critical stages of development… What makes crises of these transition periods in the life cycle – that is problematic and painful – is that in successfully working our way through them we must give up cherished notions and old ways of doing and looking at the same things. Many people are either unwilling or unable to suffer the pain of giving up the outgrown which needs to be forsaken. Consequently, they cling, often forever, to their old patterns of thinking and behaving, thus failing to negotiate any crisis, to truly grow up, and to experience the joyful sense of rebirth that accompanies the successful transition into greater maturity.

He goes on…

Self-discipline is a self-enlarging process. The pain of giving up is the pain of death, but death of the old is birth of the new.

                                                                        ~ M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled

On expectations…

As we release the hold of expectations and disappointments, we stop trying to live into the imagined life and live the one we have been given, we discover a profound inner freedom to make choices out of love rather than obligation or resentment.

                                                                        ~ Christine Valters Paintner

What are old patterns and old ways of being that are no longer serving you and need to be released? How might you let go of some expectations and open space for opportunity and surprise? How can you take a leap and lean into the life you’ve been given, your authenticity, in order to allow yourself to expand and create alignment between the inner and outer worlds?

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Podcast I’m Listening To:

Coaching for Leaders with Dave Stachowiak

#425: Change Comes Through Resilience, with Leonardo Baumworcel

Leonardo Baumworcel is the director of Hospital São Lucas in Brazil. He oversees a 200-bed hospital and emergency room seeing 10,000 patients a month. He also oversees the work of 2,500 staff. He is a cardiologist by training and a recent alum of the Coaching for Leaders Academy.

Key Points:

• One way to utilize the podcast is to leverage it for staff training to get the entire team on the same page.
• Resilience is key when working to achieve your vision through change – beware of giving up too quickly.
• Leaders need to establish the frameworks and limitations for what to do – and then help people to have the freedom to work within it.
• Peer mentoring allows both leaders to learn from each other, instead of limiting the professional development to one person.

Resources Mentioned:

• Leading Change by John Kotter
• Our Iceberg is Melting by John Kotter and Holger Rathgeber

Book I’m Reading:

Creating the Work You Love: Courage, Commitment and Career  By Rick Jarow

In this unique and provocative look at work, career counselor Rick Jarow argues for a return to the concept of vocation–finding a “calling” instead of a job.

Traditional career guides inventory the individual skills, talents, and abilities that correlate to specific existing jobs. Creating the Work You Love presents a unique alternative approach, using self-reflective exercises based on the seven chakras, to help you determine the elements you need to create a life filled with meaning and purpose.

Jarow believes that it is possible to live and act from the most authentic part of ourselves, and to express our strongest values, energies, and talents through our work in the world. Concentrating on the attributes associated with each of the body’s energy centers, or chakras, Dr. Jarow helps us form a bridge between our personal priorities and the external activities of the work world. Once this bridge is established, strategies are developed to find a career that nourishes all aspects of our lives.

 

Three Thoughts for Thursday

Quote or Passage I’m Pondering and Appreciating:

Limimal Space is the time between the past and the future; a place of transition, waiting, not knowing.  The word liminal comes from the Latin word limen, meaning threshold – any point or place of entering or beginning. Liminal space is where transformation takes place if we choose to wait and allow ourselves to be transformed.

I’ve been thinking a great deal about liminal space as I reflect upon the many transitions in my life and as I currently sit in this space, trying to embrace the uncertainty of change, being neither in the past nor the future. As I have physically transitioned from Seattle to LA and back to Seattle over the last two years, I have been sitting in this space of neither here nor there. These two years have been two of the most challenging, yet richest and most inspiring years, as I have grown and expanded and tested my wings. I have often turned to Pema Chodron and her wisdom on sitting in uncertainty. Here are a few of her thoughts on the subject that have been my companion lately.

What keeps us unhappy and stuck in a limited view of reality is our tendency to seek pleasure and avoid pain, to seek security and avoid discomfort. This is how we keep ourselves enclosed in a cocoon. Out there are all the planets and all the galaxies and vast space, but we’re stuck here in this cocoon. Moment after moment, we’re deciding that we would rather stay in that cocoon than step out into that big space. Life in our cocoon is cozy and secure. We’ve gotten it all together. It’s safe, it’s predictable, it’s convenient, and it’s trustworthy. If we fell ill at ease, we just fill in those gaps.

Our mind is always seeking zones of safety. We’re in this zone of safety and that’s what we consider life, getting it all together, security. Death is losing that. We fear losing our illusion of security-that’s what makes us anxious. We fear being confused and not knowing which way to turn. We want to know what’s happening. The mind is always seeking zones of safety, and these zones of safety are continually falling apart. Then we scramble to get another zone of safety back together again. We spend all our energy and waste our lives trying to re-create these zones of safety, which are always falling apart.  That’s the essence of samsara – the cycle of suffering that comes from continuing to seek happiness in all the wrong places.

                                    ~ Pema Chodron, Comfortable with Uncertainty

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Podcast I’m Listening To:

The Peter Attia Drive:

Expert insight on health, performance, longevity, critical thinking, and pursuing excellence. Dr. Peter Attia (Stanford/Hopkins/NIH-trained MD) talks with leaders in their fields.

Episodes #47, #48 and #49 – On the importance of sleep.

Ironically, I listened to this podcast while taking a red-eye flight to the East Coast for a workshop. What drew me to this podcast, in addition to the recommendation from my husband, was the combination of my interest in science and emotional intelligence. As someone who prides herself on doing more by sleeping less, this was a real eye-opener, pardon the pun.  I am rethinking my attitude towards sleeping and trying to re-prioritize to make sure I am getting enough zzzz’s.

#47 – Matthew Walker, Ph.D., on sleep – Part I of III: Dangers of poor sleep, Alzheimer’s risk, mental health, memory consolidation, and more.

In part 1 of this 3 part series, Matthew Walker, professor of neuroscience at UC Berkeley and expert on sleep, describes the different stages and cycles of sleep, including what he calls the 4 pillars of sleep, and how they contribute to memory consolidation and numerous important pathways to mental health. We also get into the dangers of chronic sleep deprivation, such as the development of dementia, and the more acute dangers of sleep deprivation like fatal car crashes which are most often caused by drowsy driving. We also discuss the different and important roles of REM vs. non-REM sleep, and the impact that bad sleep habits can have specifically on those sleep stages.

#48 – Matthew Walker, Ph.D., on sleep – Part II of III: Heart disease, cancr, sexual function, and the causes of sleep disruption (and tips to correct it)

In part 2 of this 3 part series, Matthew Walker, professor of neuroscience at UC Berkeley and expert on sleep, describes the preponderance of evidence linking poor sleep to cardiovascular disease, cancer and sexual function. He also details the impact of cortisol on our nervous system contributing to sleep disturbances and insomnia as well as the efficacy and risks associated with the most common sleeping pills. Matthew also describes the sleep needs of teenagers and urgently lays the case that we should reconsider school start times. We also get into the effect of electronics at night, the efficacy of napping, the general impact of modern society on our sleep habits, and what changes we can make to course correct.

#49 – Matthew Walker, Ph.D. on sleep – Part III of III: The penetrating effects of poor sleep from metabolism to performance to genetics, and the impact of caffeine, alcohol, THC, and CBD on sleep

In the final part of this 3 part series, Matthew Walker, professor of neuroscience at UC Berkeley and expert on sleep, discusses the omnipresent effects of insufficient sleep on everything from metabolism, appetite, athletic performance, decision-making, productivity, leadership, mental health, genetics, memory, and more. We also discuss the impact of caffeine and alcohol on sleep quality, the efficacy of sleep aids such as THC and CBD, and much more.

Book I’m Reading:

The Singing Neanderthals: The Origins of Music, Language, Mind, and Body by Steven Mithen

The propensity to make music is the most mysterious, wonderful, and neglected feature of humankind: this is where Steven Mithen began, drawing together strands from archaeology, anthropology, psychology, neuroscience–and, of course, musicology–to explain why we are so compelled to make and hear music. But music could not be explained without addressing language, and could not be accounted for without understanding the evolution of the human body and mind. Thus Mithen arrived at the wildly ambitious project that unfolds in this book: an exploration of music as a fundamental aspect of the human condition, encoded into the human genome during the evolutionary history of our species.

Music is the language of emotion, common wisdom tells us. In The Singing Neanderthals, Mithen introduces us to the science that might support such popular notions. With equal parts scientific rigor and charm, he marshals current evidence about social organization, tool and weapon technologies, hunting and scavenging strategies, habits and brain capacity of all our hominid ancestors, from australopithecines to Homo erectus, Homo heidelbergensis and Neanderthals to Homo sapiens–and comes up with a scenario for a shared musical and linguistic heritage. Along the way he weaves a tapestry of cognitive and expressive worlds–alive with vocalized sound, communal mimicry, sexual display, and rhythmic movement–of various species.