Three Thoughts for Thursday – July Edition

Quote or Passage I’m Pondering and Appreciating:

On criticism, “The difference lay in what they believed. If the criticism aligned with a belief they held about themselves, it hurt like hell and stopped them in their tracks. But if they believed something different about themselves, they could simply ignore the feedback or, when appropriate, incorporate what was useful about it and move on.

Since the criticism that most hurts us mirrors a negative belief we hold about ourselves, often what feels like a problem with painful criticism is really a problem with what we believe about ourselves.”

                                                                        ~Tara Mohr, Playing Big

Consider a criticism you received that really stung. How does this criticism reflect a negative belief you hold about yourself, or something you fear may be true about yourself?

Where does this belief come from?  What experiences and messaging have served to support this belief? Is this belief really true or has it been inadvertently given to you?  How might you let go of beliefs no longer serving you? How might you reframe this belief about yourself to be more empowering?

reflectingPhoto by Marc-Olivier Jodoin on Unsplash

Podcast I’m Listening To:

Father Richard Rohr: Finding Your True Self

Contemporary theologian and author Father Richard Rohr discusses how we can reconnect to our true self by overcoming the many ways in which our ego blocks our path. A Franciscan priest for more than 40 years and founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in Albuquerque, NM, Father Richard has firsthand understanding of how silence and meditation, deeper spiritual intuition and the inherent experience of love can lad to transformational discoveries within oneself. According to Father Richard, within each of us lies the true self and the false self. The true self, he says, is what religion often calls the soul – your eternal essence. The false self is the persona you create for yourself. Father Richard believes your goal in life is to find and manifest your true self.

What I gained from this podcast was a new appreciation from his view on Fear vs. Connection, and the idea he presents that the ego keeps us separate and superior as opposed to connected and a part of community. I also appreciated his thoughts on suffering, particularly the idea that suffering can either be transmitted to others or can be used to bring transformation.  With that, have a listen!

Book I’m Re-Reading:

I have a passion for EQ and this book is easy to read, to the point, and has great and practical strategies for increasing your emotional intelligence.  Whether this is your first introduction to EQ or just a refresher, there is always something new or a good point for refreshment from this book.

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves

In today’s fast-paced world of competitive workplaces and turbulent economic conditions, each of us is searching for effective tools that can help us to manage, adapt, and strike out ahead of the pack.

By now, emotional intelligence (EQ) needs little introduction—it’s no secret that EQ is critical to your success. But knowing what EQ is and knowing how to use it to improve your life are two very different things.

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 delivers a step-by-step program for increasing your EQ via four, core EQ skills that enable you to achieve your fullest potential:

1) Self-Awareness
2) Self-Management
3) Social Awareness
4) Relationship Management

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 is a book with a single purpose—increasing your EQ.